this is the photo that best sums up our state of mind about our upcoming nuptials.
So as you might imagine, I’m pretty pumped to get married. It is very strange to type out those words, as in my mind I’m still a total kid and nowhere near old enough to get married. It’s also really surreal feeling – I was definitely surprised when David proposed, but it wasn’t totally out of the blue – and it feels so natural to be in the stage of my life right now, and yet I feel like I’m not supposed to be actually planning my wedding. I guess since I’ve been kind of in the wedding industry for a while I got used to looking at inspiration pics and ideas and not ever seriously thinking of them in the context of my own wedding.
Anyway, let’s be real – I’m obviously going to blog about wedding stuff because CLEARLY a wedding is the craft project of a lifetime – and I do wedding stuff for other people, so I’m excited to talk about my own! However, I don’t want it to totally take over the blog (or my life..?).
So to kick things off, I thought I’d lay out my mindset right now – I’m afraid of descending into bridal craziness, so I think it would be good to have a reminder for myself to refer back to.
1. I’m more excited for the marriage than the wedding. I think the wedding is going to be awesome and I’m definitely enjoying planning and anticipating that day/weekend, but I think the most exciting part is at the end of the day, when it’s all over, it’s just going to be me and David taking on life together. I don’t want to get too gushy but that’s what makes all this so special for me.
2. I’m not going to be stressed about the planning process. It’s supposed to be fun, and if I find myself making it not fun, I need to take a step back and remember that this is all totally optional and it’s going to be fine. It’s like when you see those girls on Say Yes To the Dress crying because they just don’t know what dress to pick and they’re ‘overwhelmed’ and you’re like bitch, please. Stop ruining it for yourself! Or at least, I am.
3. The wedding is probably more about our loved ones than it is about us. And I want it that way! Our number one goal for this wedding is for everyone to have an awesome time. Our friends and family are really important to us – and I’m really looking forward to hopefully having all of my favorite people in one spot. I want to make it clear how much I appreciate them! Don’t get me wrong, I’m realistic enough about myself to realize that I’m going to have my princess moments, but I think that the best weddings I’ve been to are the ones where the focus is NOT on the bride having her ‘princess’ day, but where the focus is on celebrating the merging of two families, and appreciating the people who helped you get to that point.
4. Probably my biggest weaknesses are that I tend to underestimate how much time it will take me to do something, overestimate my abilities, and procrastinate. So as I actually start planning, my goals are to: Prioritize what is important to me, and not waste time/money on what’s not. Do things as they come up – I tend to think ‘oh, I have plenty of time’ and end up doing it at the last minute, which rarely turns out the way I’d like. And finally, I want to have everything pretty much locked down a month before the wedding – meaning all my big projects need to be done at that point, or scrapped, or as my friend Jessica says, not worrying about glitter when I should be spending time with my family and friends.
So, that is my wedding manifesto. Please pass along any good wedding/marriage advice you have, and I’d love to hear about any books on relationships/marriage that you think are good – I’m kind of compiling a reading list…